I know it’s been a while since I’ve written a post! So I thought this would be a great opportunity to talk about why it’s soo dang hard to start habits and actually keep them going! We’ve all been there, where we have this really great idea on something, an area of our life to improve, something to keep us occupied, a way to kick start improving our health and fitness, and then a couple weeks in… we aren’t doing what we said we would be anymore. Don’t the excuses just seem to pile up? And then we begin to simply not remember what we started in the first place until we are laying in bed at night and saying “oh yea! I should do that tomorrow!” But when tomorrow comes we never do it.
When I started this blog, I thought it would be really easy to just keep writing, one post every week or every other week! That’s so easy! There are a billion things I could write about, maybe take ten to twenty minutes to actually sit down and write something. But guess what happened: I just didn’t take the few minutes out of my week to actually do it. The “Oh I’ll do it later”s started to set in….and then the “oh I need to post something! I’ll write it tomorrow!”….and tomorrow….and tomorrow….and then it never got done. Now if you guys are like me, I can think of a lot of other things I was doing that were keeping me occupied, but when I realize that one of those things was watching Netflix, I realized how easy it was to hold off on that half an episode and just write something! So here I am, with my show of “Lie to Me” paused in the other tab, and I’m actually getting this done.
Now, when I say it was easy to just stop doing nothing and actually start doing something, I think we all know that it’s really not that easy. It’s actually really hard to stay focused and on task! Especially when we are trying to build new habits it can sometimes seem impossible. We like to be comfortable and we often resist change. And let’s not get into the science and neurology of actually creating new habits cause holy cow!! This is why simple things like eating one less roll of bread at the restaurant, like writing one little blog, like waking up 20 minutes earlier to get in a yoga session before we start our days, and like not hitting the snooze button in the morning can be soo soo hard. People say that our motivation to be better should come easily from within if it’s what we really want. Now, I don’t know about you guys, but that is one of those things that is way easier said than done. The concept sounds great right?! All we have to do is really want something and it will happen…but we all know that when we really want something, there is a lot of work that has to go into it.
This work is what makes these habits so hard to continue, even with all the motivation in the world. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not even really the work that’s the problem. It’s easy to want to do something new at the beginning because it’s fun, it’s something different, and it can be exciting. Then the repetitiveness sets in of whatever it is we told ourselves we were going to do. It’s this constant repeat of our day over and over that gets old to us. It’s trying to keep this repetitive thing that is “hard” day in and day out. Soon we find ourselves trying to come up with the next best thing we want to do and we, sometimes rather quickly, drop what we planned. Our want or dream to reach that goal didn’t fade, because when we think about whatever it is, it still brings about that spark in our minds. We still have the motivation to complete it, but we don’t stay disciplined to do it.
It’s this discipline that makes all the difference in whether we will succeed or fail. Our motivation, our reasons for what we want to achieve never really go away, but we do need help being reminded of them sometimes. I can tell you that the accountability of having someone else remind you can make the biggest difference. They don’t have to tell you everyday, they don’t even have to tell you every week. But when they do ask and you shamefully glance sideways knowing you didn’t do it, in that moment lays your greatest motivation to reset your mind on what you want. Our desires and wants change all the time, but we do all deep down have those few things that we really, really want and aren’t going to change. Everything else you choose to do should help you to achieve those deep down dreams, if it doesn’t then you will never have the motivation to do it. Let me repeat that, if its not what you really, really want, you will never have the motivation to achieve it. So let those things go, its easier when we unclutter everything we are doing in our lives and put it back to simply the things WE want.
For me, this blog is a way for me to stay focused and on task with everything else. It’s the perfect segue for me into finding my motivation again because it makes me want to read, to go do yoga, to watch video of volleyball matches, to do anything but sit and watch Netflix. Which I know I told you earlier I had paused in the next tab over on my computer, but guess who just clicked the “x” on that tab? Yep, that’s right, because I am going to go get some coffee and read my book as soon as I get this posted. Also, if you haven’t heard of Mel Robbins and her amazing 5 second rule..I really suggest you take the time and go look it up. Really is a life changer when you start using it everyday for helping to create these habits we were just talking about.
Now get out there and go do something to get better!
Much love as always!
Middle From the Middle